Do you know?
Ever find yourself thinking, saying, or doing things that go against who you think you are?
Odds are you don’t know who you are, at least not entirely.
Not enough to explain or possibly even stop that weird-ass part of yourself that leaves you feeling embarrassed or, worse, full of regret.
To know oneself, to truly understand the hidden layers of your personality, is something most people spend their whole lives trying to figure out.
Well, at least the people that care about becoming a better, brighter, more enlightened version of themselves. You’d have to be scared of something not to be interested. But then that’s fear, and let me tell you, fear, can keep you from doing a lot in your life.
Just know that although you may not like all aspects of the “you” right now, the only way to change those aspects is to figure out who you are first.
To change, you must know what needs changing. You must find out who you are.
The problem, and why I’ve started this blog, is that finding out who you are is a process. It takes time to figure out why you say what you do, think about the things you do, and react to how you do something. It takes time to understand this, to get to know yourself.
It’s a process, so the sooner you start the journey of self-discovery, the better. The sooner you can understand who you are, what makes you tick, your flaws, and your issues, the more in control you’ll feel. The more in control you’ll be, at least with yourself, your reactions, thoughts, and your life.
When I began writing The Amber Torch, I learned a lot about myself, not only through the writing process itself but through the characters that seemed to take on a life of their own as the story flowed; their personalities, interpersonal skills, issues, all of it. It made me stop and wonder about myself and how a character with many different attributes could come from me. I mean how, when I had never experienced anything remotely close to the things that had and were happening in these characters’ lives.
Where were the personalities and the feelings of my characters coming from? Were they coming from some source of intuition, of experiences that exist beyond the realm of my comprehension? Was it possible? It sure felt like it sometimes.
Of course, I’ll leave that as the topic for a future blog.
For now, I’ll leave you with this.
The road to self-discovery is never-ending. It’s complex and has layers, many layers. But the more you know about yourself, the better off you’ll be. The more you are in control of your thoughts, your perceptions, and your actions.
The better you understand yourself, the better equipped you are to make decisions—all decisions, but especially the right ones for you.
So read, watch podcasts, and do anything to help you figure things out as you delve into the world of self-reflection.
Until next time-
D